I thought it would be nice to share this short story with all my followers and viewers as I continue looking at ways Anointed Women with Purpose can be a good role models to the women, young and old, around them who are looking for good mentors.

I don’t know the writer of this piece but thought there is something we all can learn from it. It Reads:

“A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and talking with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

“Don’t forget your girlfriends,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. “They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love the children you’ll have, you are still going to need girlfriends.

Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember that ‘girlfriends’ are, not only friends, but your sisters, your daughters and other relatives too. You’ll need other women. Women always do.”

“What a funny piece of advice” the young woman thought. “Haven’t I just gotten married? I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake! – A grownup. Surely my husband and the family we will start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!”

But she listened to her mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends and made more each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life.

After almost 40 years of living in this world, here is what I’ve learned she said:

Time passes.

Life happens.

Distance separates.

Children grow up.

Love waxes and wanes.

Hearts break.

Careers end.

Jobs come and go.

Parents die.

Colleagues forget favours.

Men don’t call when they say they will.

But girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley, and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley’s rim cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end. Sometimes they will even break the rules and walk beside you or come in and carry you out. My mother, sister, sister in-law, ‘sisters’, extended family and friends bless my life! The world wouldn’t be the same without them, and neither would I.”

I believe that there are some lessons that can be learnt from that. But not forgetting what the bible says: “The righteous should choose his/her friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 12:26.

Now how must an Anointed Women with Purpose be a good mentor in conduct? Paul told us in 1 Timothy 4:12 that “let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, and in purity” even in our speech and what we say to others. If you are in the position of an anointed mentor, you can no longer do anything in your own way, but by the teaching from the word of God and the leading of the Holy Spirit. Although, to be an example of a good mentor in conduct can sometimes interfere with the concept of what you’re hoping to achieve, but not in all cases. Because you have giving up the right to do as you wish you totally dependent on God’s grace. However, even though you are walking freely with God’s grace there is sometimes a price to pay. You may have to sacrifice some of your own freedom for the sake of on-looking unbelievers or other more spiritually fragile young women in Christ. Sacrificing your freedom is not to allow your personal joy be the primary goal of your daily life. Glenda Malmin says, if you don’t, how will you be able to effectively help others deal with their everyday challenges. Did Jesus not lay down His own life for us? Jesus said to take up our cross if we desire to follow Him (Luke 9:23), which means He’s asking us to only take up the cross that has to do with our purpose. You cannot follow Christ and be focused on your own personal agenda otherwise you’re not fulfilling the purpose you’re anointed for. Therefore, my prayer for us is that as we focus on others, God will pour His blessings on us in Jesus name.

So, If you are a mentor to young women or a young woman in the midst of older ones, you cannot mentor them in a prideful manner, rather you have to mentor gently offering to help them in a time of need otherwise you might find it difficult to motivate those who are not born again around you to follow the Christ you serve and if amongst them there are born again young women they might be discouraged.

God has need of us women that is why He specially anointed some of us to fulfil His purpose as wives, mothers, sisters and mentors in our homes churches and our community. As we follow the leading of His Spirit, by His Grace fulfilling His word to work effectively in our purpose, other women will easily follow our example of conduct.

God bless you until next time

Pastor Funmi


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